I lived in southern Spain for almost three years, from May 2017 to March 2020. During those years, I never left the country. For some expats, maybe that doesn’t sound odd or hard; for others, it will sound both odd and hard. It certainly wasn’t something I’d done before. When we lived in Morocco for … Continue reading Relationship Workout →

Dear Luke, You turned four this week.  I still remember how I cried when the midwives placed you on my chest, cried out of relief that you were alive, outside of my body. No more worries about food, medication, miscarriage, premature birth. No more poking my belly to wake you up, just so your indignant … Continue reading Chances Are →

“I don’t want to be in a battle. But waiting on the edge of one I can’t escape is even worse.” Pippin’s words float through my mind often these days. In January, I plunged excitedly into leaving preparations, only to pulled back to the surface again by a miscarriage. While that grief is still in-process … Continue reading Breath Before the Plunge →

If you’ve ever found yourself in a role that fits awkwardly, a size too small or too wide across the shoulders, yet you know you’re meant to wear it anyway: Don’t go to the one wearing a perfectly-fitted shirt and ask them how they make it look so easy. Go to the one who’s rocking … Continue reading Fashion Advice for the Chronically Ill-fitted →